Aug 25, 2009

when silence can mean a million things...

... and «talking» mean an empty life

I've been trying to learn how interactions between two people work in an era of perpetual contact (Katz & Aakhus, 2002) and I'm puzzled by the meanings of silence and how people seem to manage it in such elaborate ways. This seems to add new layers to the old communication paradigms, that were, mostly, based on face to face (f2f) interactions. It does not stop amazing me that, with all the communication channels available, it gets harder for people to get (and stay) together. And I keep thinking of a million things, but writing only a few that keep coming to my mind:
  • The elaboration of the mediated self, seems to be consuming all the time people have and detracting them for experiencing the, what might seem, the limitation of the physical world
  • Fears of failing in a world where people can bump into one another without being able to hold to a more controlled information space where they decide and control what is said and to whom, in their own grounds... and if they don't know something, they can always google it for staying better in the picture
  • The accelerated perception that people seem to feel that they have seen it all, that they can classify everything and that they can know everything, just because they can read it in words, in images or sound somewhere on the web
  • Hindering their capacity to marvel in face of serendipitous otherness discovery from casual encounters, just by feeling good by enjoying all the senses around «just a cup a coffee»
  • A need to accelerate the sense of «knowing someone» without the time required to «get to know someone» in different life stages, besides the digital ensemble ones
  • The perceive need to «say and show everything», taking away the magic of the exercise needed to play out with clues and trying to figure out what might the other be
  • The excessive ritualization where people really have to construct elaborate scripts to have «casualty encounters»
  • A sense of competitive «market for friends» in which if one does not became «friend» there will be millions of others in line that will
  • Growing difficulty to spot the genuine
I long for other rhythms. The kind that makes one feel happier for not needing to use technology for mediation of loneliness and emptyness.

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